Just look at this...
This pic is enough to catch your attention as a beautiful bride, but do you notice something that comes first in your mind after seeing it.
Well according to me……..
A rich bride with a fake smile.
Now how can I say this or dare to use the term?
“fake” here.
Let us consider a real example.
My cousin who now turned 35 becomes a burden for my uncle.
Now let me introduce her...
She is the girl who passed her 12th grade with 94%, after that she desired and wanted to become a doctor but it was not possible due to their bad financial conditions.
As we know that stones are in the luck of mirrors. But the mirror never lies.
So, she decided to do B Pharma, managed the fee by giving tuitions, and finally decided to go further for higher studies, luckily she got a scholarship for M pharma.
One day she got a call from SGPGI Lucknow to join them and further go for the next step Ph.D.
During this journey, she was selected as one of the few students who where decided to go to America for advanced training.
She was very happy, that moment was unforgettable for us.
But when bad phases have to come, good phases will come prior to that, so one must feel the real difference between the two.
My uncle decided to search for a groom better called “ yogya var” for my cousin.
It will take 3 years, finally, they get someone called “ yogya var” for their daughter.
Now the real story begins.
No marriage in India can happen without dowry whether it is arranged or a love marriage.
And when it cames to an typical indian arrange marriage , the groom side get a license to satisfy their greeds .
They demanded for 15 lakh cash with 4 wheeler not below than 10 lakhs ( as u know aisi waisi nhi chalegi ) together with all necessary arrangements and stuffs .
It will cost around 50 lakh , to which I get shocked and even advised my uncle to not spend their whole life earning just for making a single day memorable .
Their reactions ( including their relatives too) were just as if I am professional serial killer or better to say like a thakur reaction on seeing gabbar .
All and all , destiny has its own wins , no matter who hard u try to change the circumstances .
After marriage , complications started as her first priority is family but it was the time when she was at its peak on the career track .
Later her husband can’t tolerate that how can my wife will become more successful than me ( typical indian male perception ). God knows what kind of game he played that forced my sister to leave her dream and even reject the job proposal came from america .
Things get complicated , even worst than worsen , and finally I came to know that my yogya jijaji (cousin husband) was secretly married to his ex .
Finally the story ends with spoiling someone’s life .
Now I wanna ask few questions ……
- Who is wrong here, my uncle ?
- My cousin for her bad luck ?
- The so called dowry system that even after spending the whole life earning ,there is no guarantee of successful marriage .
- or simply me for sharing this incident .
That is why I use fake smile ..
My kind message to all .
1: never waste your whole earning for making one day special even for your own daughter happiness.
2: Secondly , a person blessed with one son and one daughter must need to stop this dowry trend .
U need to understand that it’s not your daughter’s revenge that you are talking from your own son marriage .
3: money is not a guarantee of successful relationship although it is a creator of love in now a days but happiness can never be buyed with that .
4: For girls , don’t leave your dream just because of marriage . If you are successful then “ bahut milege vrna khud ke ghr wale bhi nhi poochne wale”
5 : For boys , u don’t have any right to take advantage of arrange marriage “ loot lo zitna man chaahe”
That’s all
Image source: Google
Edit : For those who were asking that what should we do if I am a male , or simply if I am a father having daughter….
For boys : first of all , if you are not married or going to be married soon then first help your wife and make her independent , because it’s hard to accept that we have to start from our own house. .
Today the trend of going outside for work is diminishing ( mostly for females )and one must have many options to work from home like giving tutions , utilising social media platforms such as you tube or the way u want .
Mark my words,
An independent woman will definitely make her daughter independent .
Secondly .
If I am a father having daughter :
Then you must realise your daughter about the importance of making her own identity in life , if she becomes independent then , she will be remembered by her own identity .
I know that you have responsibility but don’t consider this as a burden. Raise her just the way you would raise a son.
Remember a small confidence in her eyes will always boost your confidence when you search for a groom so that the possibility of taking right decision increases .
